Long Distance Relationships

I am writing these words high above the clouds as I fly from Mendoza, Argentina, deep in the Southern Western hemisphere to Sofia, in the far Northern Eastern hemisphere. Traveling from summer to winter, long days to short, tank-tops to heavy coats, I feel immensely grateful to have reincarnated in the 21st century, the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, when the world has turned into a global village. Exercising oneness on a daily basis, we are learning how everything is connected, via internet, technology, climate, art, spirituality and economy. As we dive deeper into the Age of the Water-Bearer, I am sure pretty soon, the galaxy will become a village.

In this lifetime, as an Aries, member of the frontier sign, my job is to test the fire and report back (if I survive), and for this reason, many of my workshops and seminars have emerged out of my life experiences. And bear with me, as I write these few paragraphs, cruising in high altitude with the Andes to the left of me and the Atlantic to the right, that I share what I am going through and perchance it can vibrate a chord in your soul, as the piano strings reverberate each other.

I know many who proclaim they refuse to engage in long distance relationships, but as Venus, the goddess of love, in my chart emerges out of the flames of Aries, falling in love first and then asking questions I found myself in a very long distance relationship. So long that my partner and I live in opposite seasons. And thus, in addition to my already intense work related travel to Europe and Asia, Karma insisted I add another stop, somewhere close to nowhere by the mighty Andes in South America.

A few minutes ago, in front of the gates that lead to security, I bid my partner an emotional adios after we spent an enchanted moon-cycle together. But as is the nature of jet-lag, my soul will take some time before it catches up with my body so I can expect some Mendocinian dreams before we reunite in a month and a half. And worse still (or better) I also fell in love with my partner’s dog which means that I have a human and a dogling long distance relationship.

The Age of Aquarius, the sign of the water (emotions) bearer, makes long distance relationships somewhat easier to bear. With Skype, WhatsApp, Facetime and other weapons of mass connections, love can grow beyond seasons, space and time difference. Long distance relationships are an exercise of patience, acceptance, trust, longing, forgiveness, and creativity. And as I am writing these attributes, I realize that according to Kabbalah and many other mystical traditions, we all have a long-distance relationship with God, Spirit or, Oneness.  

Rumi, the great Sufi of the 13th century chronicled poetically his constant longing for his beloved and the ecstasy it made him feel. In his words:

Oh Beloved,
take away what I want.
Take away what I do.
Take away what I need.
Take away everything
that takes me from you.

We reincarnate into the space-time continuum starting our journey as the union of a sperm and an egg. As we mature we realize that deep inside we have a longing for something bigger than us. Something far and yet so close that keeps us perpetually lonely. As we become more conscious, we realize that we are seeking union with something higher than us. For many this happens during puberty, for others it appears later. But part of being trapped in these mortal coils, is the constant striving for an ecstatic reunion with the divine. This love affair each one of us experiences fully in the afterlife, in between lifetimes and it has profound ripples and reverberations in our lives here on earth. We experience it as inspiration, art, meditation, dreams, imagination, and creativity.

So, you see, I am not alone in my very long-distance relationship. With me, united, stands all of creation. We all “do” the long-distance relationship thing with God. We reunite between lives with our beloved, sharing wonderful passionate experiences of total ecstasy. And then, back to work, back to reality, we need to evolve and so we bid our love farewell, as I just did, shed a few tears and next thing you know, you are squeezing through someone’s birth canal. Freud postulated that newborns cry from anxiety, scientists claim it helps babies expand their rigid lungs but I think neonates cry because they realize that they won’t see their beloved until they die.

But here is the beauty of it all. As above so below. Just as Skype, WhatApp and Facetime can help us keep in touch with our long-distance lovers, so does meditation, yoga, reading, imagination, dreams, poetry, art, hobbies, martial arts, to name a few, can help us keep in touch with our true soul-mate, God/dess.